Self Reflection
The top things that I feel unsatisfied with
I was feeling tired all day, and I don’t have the power to do anything.
I always follow the curriculum to complete work; therefore, I become discouraged when it comes to self-interested work.
Top 3 things I always complain about
I am poor
I looks ugly
I am always tired
How would others think about me with those things
He is a 颓废的 person
5-10 years beyond
I was sitting on a chair in my office, staring at the ceiling and doing nothing because I’m too tired.
MVP after 3 years with my goal and dream
I was in a library and studying about advanced courses, getting involved with professors, getting tons of chances in labs, and having several of my own works displayed.
I was the type of person who doesn’t feel tired and has 精力 to do anything I wish.
I was the type of person who could speak fluent English, almost like a native speaker, and get involved in the US community.
I wish I were the type of person who could type fast, read fast, and write English Essays with no obstacles!!!
What would I do if I were to become that kind of person
I will probably learn English vocabulary and practice writing and speaking from now on.
What should I do during the day if I feel lost
(1) 早上：心理挖掘（Psychological Excavation）
- 先写你「一直忍受的钝痛式不满」
- 写你一年内最常抱怨的 3 件事
- 逼你承认：旁观者看你的行为会觉得你真正想要什么
- 建立「反愿景（anti-vision）」：想象 5 年、10 年后如果完全不改变，你的一个普通星期二长怎样、你失去什么、别人怎么评价你
- 接着建立「最小可行愿景（MVP vision）」：如果 3 年后你想要的生活成真，你的普通星期二长怎样
- 写身份句：「我是那种会……的人（I am the type of person who…）」
- 问自己：如果你已经是那个人，本周你会做的第一件事是什么
(2) 白天：打断自动驾驶（interrupt autopilot）
- 设提醒（reminders/calendar events），用问题中断你习惯性的逃避
- 问题围绕：我现在在逃避什么？我在往讨厌的生活走还是往想要的生活走？我哪些行为是在保护身份而不是真心？
(3) 晚上：综合洞见（synthesize insight）
- 今天我卡住的真正原因是什么？
- 真正的敌人是什么（内在模式/信念，而不是外界）？
- 用一句话浓缩反愿景（我拒绝变成什么）
- 用一句话浓缩愿景（我在建造什么）
- 分三层目标镜头（lens）：一年 / 一月 / 明天要做的 2–3 个行动（timeblock）
Turn your life into a video game
6 个元素写成一套系统：
- 反愿景（anti-vision）＝失败代价/危机感（stakes）
- 愿景（vision）＝胜利条件（win condition）
- 1 年目标＝主线任务（mission）
- 1 月项目＝Boss 战（boss fight）
- 每日杠杆行动＝支线任务（quests）
- 约束（constraints）＝游戏规则（rules）
用「反愿景→愿景→分层目标→每日行动→约束」建立一个能重塑身份的心理与行为系统，并用一天的深度提问把你从自动驾驶中拉出来。